“There is something about the outside of a horse
that is good for the inside of a man.”
Imagine a small pen, only about 20 feet in diameter. Inside it, you and a 1200 pound animal that you have never met. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to communicate clearly with this animal that is many times larger than you. Some folks might find that a bit unnerving.
You major hurdle? You don’t speak the same language
This animal does not know the word, “why.” Reasons do not matter to a horse, nor do false stories, excuses or blame.
Those things are standard in the realm of humans. Incorporating them has become our default through programming of life; a concocted blend of traumatic situations like bullying, criticism and stress. Results can be compounded daily.
Sometimes we spend so much time in the story of our lives that we forget what it feels like to really live it.
In the moment.
Where each breath is a gift of a new experience.
That is how these animals feel the world.
The communication of these animals is pure and not polluted with negativity.
If you are to succeed in your mission, you must meet him on his level. Filters removed. No more stories for why you approach life and people the way you do. He doesn’t care. No excuses effect his decision to either accept you, or not let you near. You must release all that you think serves you and truly just be.
It’s not always easy.
I have witnessed horses encouraging tightly-wound people to breathe by standing near them and sighing. When the tension in the human body is released, communication can be accomplished. Without a single word.
Each breath becomes a gift of a new experience.
Fresh. No baggage allowed on this journey of nature’s rhythm. There’s not even room for the to-do list! It’s light. It’s how we were born to communicate.
Intelligence is more than measured academic success, but includes an emotional component; we call it emotional intelligence, which is at the heart of self-fulfillment and self-expression in relationships.
Losing touch ( as we are prone to do) with the basic rhythm of the natural world, and the comfort the earth gives us may not only lower our emotional intelligence, but may lead us toward illness. Literally.
If it sounds a bit, well, “woo woo” to you, consider this: Simple physics proved to us that all living things have an energy field. Horses’ hearts have been measured to have a much larger energy field than our own.
And, nature and animals fall into the category of what some energy specialists refer to as, “finer vibrations” capable of healing the human Spirit.
That’s why we feel better when we are around horses!
And that’s why we must be cohesive in our rhythm if we want to communicate with them.
And that brings us back to your mission: communicating with this large animal you don’t know.
To stand for while uncomplicated and open is like a shot of youth serum, it feels beautiful and childlike. Granted, it seems impossible to live in this space with the daily whirl of life as a business owner or busy parent. However, just to know the healing value of deliberate slowing and communicating with simplicity is, well, powerful. With practice, relationships can be enhanced, strengthened and healed sometimes without saying a word.
How do you think the knowledge of this natural state of non-verbal connection can improve your daily conversations, presentations and even negotiations? Can you see the possibility of seeing more clearly other people’s intentions? Of course, being clear with your own intentions is a skill of a powerful communicator and leader.
“Standing with my horse at the end of a tough workday I can feel the layers of stress peeling away, like dropping a heavy winter coat and turning to the warmth of the spring sun. I take a fresh breath. My horse sighs.”– SDR