You know those guys that use the over-rehearsed speech to pick up the ladies? (Guys, I am assuming if you use these you most likely are not reading this type of blog). In LA, it would go something like this: “ I’m a producer of television shows, so I recognize talent when I see it. (Swarmy smile).”
And all at once, the ladies go,“Ewww.”
Actually had that experience just yesterday. It got me thinking….
We can all read through over-practiced and impersonal crap in conversation can’t we? We long for a real connection, whether it is romantic, friendly or business discussion. It’s ironic, isn’t it, that we are obsessed with connecting digitally; text, social networks and e mail, but still nothing beats having a real eye-to-eye conversation with someone who is present in the moment with us. We remember that person.
How can we apply this observation to presenting and sharing your message?
In a discussion recently with Carolyn Parks, President of Outstanding Women Speakers, in Ontario Canada (http://outstandingwomenspeak.com/) when asked what is “trending” in the speaker world, she said the days of pre-packaged performances are over. The speakers getting booked now are very present, natural in delivery and engage the audience, not just in the “everyone high five your neighbor” way, but really present with individuals in the room.
If you know that speaking on stages, on camera and even in boardrooms is what will get your message out there and raise your platform then this should be a great relief! It’s further proof that being you not a character in a play, or a master of monologues is where the sweet spot is.
I am not saying to “wing it!” Know your stuff and have your talk or video presentation effectively structured, but sense the freedom that there is no need to memorize exact script, or movement, but trust that you know your stuff and share it with each person.
And yes, you can do this with a video message, too! Three things:
- Have just a “skeleton” of your message, with bullet points (not too many, keep from overloading your audience. Confused minds don’t make decisions), and an order you would like things to go.
- Make 3-second contact with individuals. I saw Tom Brokaw speak to a room of about 300 people; when leaving, all I could hear were people saying, “ I swear he was taking right to me!” And, I felt the same way! All it takes is about three solid seconds of actually connecting with an individual in a crowd to have them feel that they are seen. That’s what we all want to feel. (And it’s what’s missing in the cheesy men with the programmed pick up lines!). In a camera, picture ONE person that you know you have helped and talk through the camera to them. (More on this in the free training DVD on http://charismaoncamera.com/ezine-optin-download/)
- Trust yourself. You know your stuff. You bring great benefit with your message. Now, the best part: have fun, even in a corporate setting, too. Trust me, corporate folks need some fun in their day!
EVEN if you have had rigorous presentation training in the past, trust what you have been taught, but let it go if you are feeling restricted. Trust that your training will serve you when you need it. You are free to move about the stage, you need not keep your arms and hands inside the car, enjoy the ride! There may be unexpected ups, downs, twists and turns, but that is exactly what we, your supportive audience, are hoping to experience with you!
Leveraging your message with speaking, video and TV is what will help you to make the impact in the world you are designed to make. This is one way to understand that it just may be easier than you think!