How Will Your Brand Look this Holiday Season?
Published October 14, 2011 | 
It’s not too early to plan it!
One of the best parts of working on TV is the clothes…I wish I could keep them, and some of the jewels as well.
Dressing like a soap star every day in real life isn’t in most people’s budget, but with the holidays just around the corner (hard to believe but true!) your VISUAL BRAND needs some go to soap-opera worthy glamour!
I love the idea of dressing up, and I also love the idea of keeping my bank account growing… THAT’S why I love these two companies!
I met Carol at an event and loved her… and her bling! Borrowed Bling is the best way to look movie star fabulous and stay in your budget! I mean, hey, the red carpet at the Oscars are filled with jewels that are borrowed, so why shouldn’t you do the same thing?
And another accessory that speaks for you… your bag! Check out Bag Borrow or Steal!
The holidays can be a great time to network. People are just a touch more relaxed and the atmosphere a bit more fun. You’ve been working on your messaging and your pitch (including the super short networking one) all year long, so put on that party dress(and bling and fab bag) and get out there!
You can make an impact with your life.. making an impact with your image doesn’t hurt!
Five Ways to Knock Out the Performance Jitters
Published May 10, 2011 | 
Feel like you’re never going to stop those shaky knees and pre-performance nerves? Here are a few ideas to help you get past the debilitating effects of the jitters:
1. Appreciate them. I know it sounds crazy, but acknowledge the nerves as though they are an old friend, and know they are there because you care about what you are doing. That’s a good thing. Those swirling butterflies in your tummy can be asked to fly in formation and energize you… that way they work in agreement with your goal. You might actually visualize this and get the feeling that those butterflies are your support team, and NOT there to derail you at all!
2. Another visual exercise: Imagine a time when you were totally confident. Put yourself back in that time, and remember every sight, smell and thought in your head at that time. Once you can experience that memory fully, move the feelings of that time into the future time of your presentation. Picture yourself standing with that confidence you know you had in the past. If you did it once, you are perfectly able to feel it now. Really lock in that feeling, like an athlete would in an important race, and then anchor it in somehow, maybe by a physical touch on your tummy, or some other part of your body. Touching that spot before you step up to speak should trigger that sense of confidence automatically.
3. Avoid physical stumbling blocks; work out to relax your muscles, and skip the caffeine (seriously). Coffee can make a brain short circuit when under stress, so it’s just not worth it. And eat a balanced meal before you are asked to present or be on set, to properly fuel your brain.
4. Do your homework. The biggest stress factor is to not be prepared. If you feel the need to consult with a coach to prepare do so. It pays to make the most of every media and speaking opportunity and if you need help in prepping the perfect message, then seek it. It is a wise investment. Leveraging the opportunities is the goal! Don’t play it small.
5. Remember the big picture. By focusing on your big picture you will be outside of yourself and into the projected outcome of your intention. Instead of thinking about your knocking knees, you will be picturing the school you want to build, or the sales you want to reach, or the lives you want to save. It’s hard to think of yourself when you are focused on what you can do for others.
Jitters need not be a bad thing at all. Once you don’t see them as a problem, they may just quiet down completely!
Is Your Wardrobe Red Carpet Ready?
Published January 20, 2011 | Inspiration from the Golden Globes
Hollywood’s A-listers are lucky to have designers that cut specifically for them. Did you see Claire Daines at the Golden Globes in her
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gorgeous hot pink dress sewn with perfection for her by Calvin Klein?
Unfortunately, most of us do not fall into the category of red carpet goddess (THIS week!), but with a little help from some designer experts, it is possible to apply some savvy Hollywood style tips to a wardrobe-retrofit, so that you have a closet that is ready to showcase you at any time!
Why is this important to your media trainer? Because when ABC, CBS or another media outlet needs you, you sometimes can have only hours to get camera-ready. There’s no time to run to the mall! For example: I had a client that received a call from the Today Show. They had her on camera within 90 minutes of the initial phone call!
Having a go-to camera-ready area of your closet is crucial preparation for media exposure. That’s why I dedicated a chapter to wardrobe in my latest training DVD, and I feel fortunate to have talented designers available to consult with my clients.
It’s that important.
My designer friends have given me 5 Hollywood Designer Tips to share with you:
- Purge! This is cathartic! Remove absolutely everything from your wardrobe that does not let you feel fantastic. This means you must disregard the price you paid or who bought an item for you. If you don’t love it, toss it (or donate it)! You’ll open up the closet space for better things.
- Know your shade. Notice what colors you are wearing when you get the most compliments and build on those. Note: If you have changed your hair drastically, chances are you’ll have to re-examine the color scheme of your closet!
- Know your body type (really): Stand naked in front of the mirror, cover your face in your reflection with your hand so you see only your body. Are you a pear, apple or an hourglass? This is not what-you-would-like-to-be, or what-you-were-before-the baby, but really. By being honest with yourself you can dress your body in the most flattering way today. When your fitness commitment pays off, then you get to do this again! Key: Your wardrobe should change as you do. For more understanding of how to highlight your figure’s assets, look for my upcoming teleseminar with designer Noel Wu on February 1, 2011.
- Build with essentials: We’ve heard it a thousand times (thanks, Mom!), but I admit, I didn’t appreciate this until I started to follow this rule: Basic, high quality pieces are the building blocks of a well-functioning wardrobe. Complimenting colors and basic neutrals can be layered, and your investment will go far and last longer than the sale items at the teen mall store. Not sure how to tell real quality? Ask a well-dressed friend to show you the difference in fabrics, stitching and buttons… once you can spot the good stuff, it makes those rare good deals even sweeter!
- Get trendy highlights!: This is where you can have fun, and spend less; implementing trendy accessories or occasional pieces is a great way to stay up-to-the-minute with your style, but not spend a fortune! Animal prints the “hot” thing for the season? By a leopard tank, and layer it under your quality pieces!
My husband has a saying, “Control what you can and prepare as best as possible for the rest!”
In this case, eliminating clothing frustration protects your ability to concentrate on your message and the open door of opportunity that is a media interview.
Hey, it might not be red carpet right away, but it doesn’t hurt to plan for it!
What's Your Story? Share your message by including these 5 elements…
Published December 17, 2009 | The greatest story ever told is the story of Mary and Joseph and the birth of the baby Jesus. It has been written in nearly every language spoken by man. It has been painted, acted and sculpted. It has been analyzed and romanticized. But it is the most recognized story on Earth. It is the reason for the Season!
That’s proof that the art of storytelling is powerful! It can be found every culture and in every land as a means of education, entertainment, and moral enlightenment. It is the most effective way of organizing information. I bet your family will have plenty of old stories told this holiday season!
Your information can benefit from a story. Maybe it’s the tale of your life or the transformation of your client, or a funny anecdote. It could be all of the above!
It’s best to start with your story. You may very well have need of different versions, depending on the audience before you, and the amount of time allotted to share your information. You may have a 30-minute version, but you will more likely be in need of a 2-minute version and it may be a bit of a challenge to edit your history so drastically and still maintain the integrity, entertainment value, and important emotive power. Some things to keep in mind:
Every effective story contains these 5 elements:
- Setting: Usually made clear early on
- Character: what is the age, position, their desires or dreams?
- Experience, or plot: actions that have consequences and reactions to these consequences by the characters
- Climax: The height of tension in the narrative
- Resolution: How was the problem overcome?
By having your story clarified, you will be able to establish your credibility for speaking on your topic and establish a level of empathy with your listeners.
With the actual sharing of your story, there must always be a feeling of spontaneity, even if you have told it a thousand times! Remain open to reaction from your listeners or audience. This will help them to feel a part of the tale.
Ultimately, you want your listeners to be caught up emotionally and transported to a different place then where they were before they met you. Motivational speaker Les Brown says, you want to “distract” your audience; meaning pull them away from the current “story” in their heads (whether it’s that they aren’t capable of achieving their goals or the review of their grocery list!)
What makes a good storyteller great (and why not aspire to be great!?) is they tell stories of the type or in the style that suits their personality the best, with an open, honest and effortless ease.
So now, What’s your story?
A New Way to Create Your Elevator Speech
Published October 30, 2009 | I shared a fantastic Saturday with a small group of amazing women in business. Each of them had a story that was so intriguing and each possessed a passion for what they did that seemed to make them just shine when they had the opportunity to talk in length about what they did. When it came time to give a concise definition of their unique business, however, I saw a problem across the board.
Here was a group of fascinating, dedicated, and extremely professional women that were missing opportunities to increase their recognition and income!
We all can benefit from getting our message compressed into a great little “commercial”. You can call it the “elevator speech” or “30 second pitch’ (my least favorite title for this, by the way) but having a great one is crucial to career advancement, and having a repertoire of these little gems is invaluable. Makes sense, right?
What you may not realize is that perfecting your delivery of your “commercial” on camera can be a huge benefit to your growth. It doesn’t matter if you think you are not yet ready for “prime time” TV because nothing can increase confidence in the delivery of your message faster than watching yourself in real time.
Here’s how it works: develop a fabulous description of what you do think about what makes you different. Examples; You may be the banker who really cares to see your clients succeed in their financial goals or a lawyer with integrity (insert favorite lawyer joke here), or maybe the bath product that you developed is the best because it’s your grandmother’s formula.
There is something different about you that the world would be better to know, and no one can benefit if you can’t deliver your message efficiently. A good coach or media trainer can assist you by finding key points of your business that you most want to share. From that foundation it’s possible to create an initial ‘commercial” or two.
Now, get in front of a camera and get interviewed about your business! If you don’t have a coach to interview you then grab a friend that is business-minded and who will ask you in-depth questions. As they are playing reporter, make sure they ask “who, what, when why and how” questions and force you to talk at length. Practice using those “commercials” that you just developed when answering your interview questions.
Now play it back and watch yourself. It may be tough at first to see everything, so be prepared to sit for a while and re-watch your interview a few times.
Look for the places where you are most fun to watch (being entertaining is charismatic!). When are you most uncomfortable and why? What can you do to relieve your discomfort in those areas?
By watching yourself as you discuss your business you will begin to understand where you share your message most strongly, and how you might improve in other areas. Even if you think TV is not in your immediate future… you are already getting prepared: those little commercials can be great sound bites when you are being interviewed in the media!
If you feel that you might benefit from doing this exercise, and want to progress quickly by having a coach, contact Charisma on Camera, and we’ll find a program best suited to your needs.
“That’s Just how I Am”, Why you may want to change before mainstream media runs away with you
Published October 8, 2009 | Perception of behavior is innate, we have been evaluating behavior and movement since our cave dwelling ancestors relied upon discernment for survival. Actually, in some ways we still rely on acumen for our well being on a daily basis, but now we may not even realize what we are doing. Working with my clients on camera there are times when it may be hard for them to understand that certain behavior or even part of their story may be the wrong thing for mainstream media. It may be the wrong thing for the advancement of their brand, even though they feel they are just being the “way they are”. Please understand that I love to have someone to work with who is comfortable in their own skin, it is a fantastic starting point for me as their media trainer to prepare them to handle the logistics of being on camera. It may be difficult to understand that some behavior that is natural to that person may cause a negative perception when seen by an audience.
For example, ending a sentence with a closed-mouth smile can be interpreted as arrogant, or not trustworthy; While audience reaction may be completely incorrect, but studies show that an open mouthed smile evokes a much more positive reaction in viewers and encourages them to like the person. Why not make the adjustment, right?
Another example: A high pitched voice may be a detriment to someone trying to establish credibility as an expert in their field of business; they may be seen as young or flighty based solely on a gutteral reaction and not necessarily true. I recommend a series of vocal exercises to strengthen the diaphragm and deepen the voice resonance.
A most common behavior for people new to on camera work is the looking away ( usually down and to the left) when speaking into camera. It evokes distrust because connection is lost to the viewer when the eyes go elsewhere, and it may seem “shifty”. In reality, it is most likely a symptom of discomfort when looking into a black lens for the first few times. There are acting exercises (some are pretty fun, too!) that I do to help increase comfort and create a friendly relationship with that black lens. Treat it as if it’s a friend, and the audience will feel as if they are your friend. Don’t’cha kinda feel like Oprah’s friend when she talks to you on TV? It works.
Likeability is established initially on the way that you look (movement included) then on the way you sound and finally, what you are saying. Fine tuning behavior and movement is step one is establishing your charisma on camera.
Beware of Seminars that promise to show the easy way to become a media superstar
Published September 18, 2009 | Promotions surface everyday for seminars that promise to show the easy way to become a media superstar… start a video blog… or pitch yourself to Oprah. Ee gads! One seminar’s landing page had video testimonials from past participants that had spent $5,000 to meet reporters and producers in hopes of becoming a guest expert. Not one of these people could look comfortably at the camera, and I cringed at the money they had just dropped for the weekend. Without camera awareness, they don’t have a chance of being booked as a guest.
There is a certain camera savvy that must be in place before you put yourself in the vulnerable position of media exposure.
Still not sure if this media training is really what you need?
Here’s the experience of an unpolished guest on a TV interview show as seen
- through the eyes of the interviewer: They are struggling to keep the segment running at a smooth pace, the guest is running on, and falling off topic… they are tiring, and the guest will not be asked back if the host has anything to say about it.
- Through the eyes of the producer; He sees the obvious struggle of his host, and wants the guest out of the chair asap.
- Through the eyes of the editor; A guest that doesn’t know how to find camera and doesn’t speak in clear sound bites for him to edit easily, makes his job much more difficult.
- How about the audience?: They will find they’ve lost interest, and may not be able to explain why, but they change the channel, or go get a snack.
As a guest you have responsibilities! Media wants you to be entertaining, high-energy, hold their audience and teach them something. It is actually more important HOW you say what you do than WHAT you say. Learning interview structure, camera awareness, story telling, sound bites are all crucial to maximizing your media opportunities.
That’s what media training does. Good media exposure is powerful, and builds on itself… be ready out of the gate! Your message is important, and the media wants you to be a star… it makes them look good! Your job is to be ready!
The True Story About Overnight TV Sensations
Published September 18, 2009 | I must admit, I have on more than one occasion, actually run my necessary errands while on a teleseminar. The cashier at the grocery store looked at me a bit concerned at first when she saw my distant expression, until I pointed to my ear piece, and then she realized that I was just rude. Hmmm.
Ditto with the dry cleaners, and the horse supply store.
Yeeaaaaa. I do believe I have taken multitasking too far.
I am not alone in my desire to learn as I move my business forward. That’s why we train in marketing, and social networking, sales pages and website building. Our time is value as entrepreneurs and one more class has to really qualify.
So, is media training important?
Today I saw a video of a seminar where each participant paid close to $5,000 for the privilege of meeting TV show producers and reporters in hopes that they would be considered to be a guest expert. What frightened me was watching these same participants handle the video testimonial so badly! I gasped, realizing that there is a misconception about TV opportunity that is surfacing within the entrepreneurial community.
Read this issues article to be aware and prepared!
As for my multitasking… I didn’t like how that felt, so I now make a point to open a conversation with my sweet dry cleaner owner… I get a 10 percent discount now! Bonus!
2 Essentials for On-Camera Charisma: Simplicity and Truth
Published September 4, 2009 | Several days ago I came across a quote by Leo Tolstoy, “There is no greatness where simplicity, goodness and truth are absent.”
The word “simplicity” struck me as I read it, and then, “truth”.
These are the two primary essentials that I strive to perfect when I am working with a passionate client that is sharing their talent, or message, or product with the world, and wants to prepare for major media exposure.
“What about ‘goodness’?” you might be asking; Let’s just say, that I assume that my client is well intentioned, and I believe man is fundamentally good. Goodness is a given.
So then, about simplicity: it can be a challenge to simplify a message that strikes someone in such a passionate way. While the history of the business, or the origin of the program that you might speaking about may very well be fascinating, the media needs it in a nutshell. And I mean a very small, informative and entertaining nutshell. We call these sound bites, and I recently wrote an article where I explain further the importance of speaking this way for interviews. It is important information, but too much to expand on right now.
A second thing about simplicity is the retelling of your brand…. Simply, and many times. I spend a significant amount of time with my clients clarifying their brand for media. Your brand in print may not translate the same way when you bring your personal flavor to it in conversation and appearance. But, ultimately it is your personal flavor, and your simple message that we will remember, so they must resonate with what you want to achieve, and attract. This is true, not just in media, but really, in all aspects of your business. Want proof of a simple message that worked in the media? Here are some:
The ultimate driving machine: BMW
You can “Just do it” with these: Nike
Country first: John McCain
Change and Hope: President Obama
I am sure you can think of many more like this. No matter what, every opportunity that these individuals, or companies are given to share their brand, it is a version of the ones stated above. They are simple. You can do the same thing. When deciding what media-attended event to enter, which charity to endorse, which way to answer an interview question on a current topic… remember the simple message of your brand, and choose what best fits in every situation. You have probably done this with your print ads, and website already but with every media opportunity you must showcase your brand as you live it.
And that transitions us perfectly to “truth”. We have been appreciating a simple message that is born of passion, evokes emotion and is purely based in truth. One element (and there are many tangents that I could go off on about truth in all of it’s amazing philosophical levels) of truth that I strive to bring out in my clients is their humor. Everyone has a sense of humor, and why, oh, why do so many people think that they need to hide their sense of humor from the camera? The warmth of humor, whether you are a sarcastic wit (sarcasm is humor), or possess a charming giggle, or love a good guffaw (there’s a word from great grandpa’s day!) it begs to be seen if you are spending time in front of a device that is capturing your personality. To hide your humor is to not be truthful.
Obviously, there is a level of appropriateness, but if you are a jovial individual who regularly laughs at yourself in “real life” and that’s what your friends like about you, why stifle that in an interview? Add a bit of laughter to your website intro video! Especially if you are a coach of some kind; your potential clients want to know what they are buying, and they are buying you. Trust me, great leaders laugh, too.
I learned the freedom of letting your humor when I was shooting a skin care commercial with a lot of dialogue, and I was looking straight into the camera. The day was very long, and we all got a bit punchy. That combination of silliness on set, and exhaustion left me unable to hold up the walls of serious pretense that I mistakenly had thought that I needed. I laughed, and had a few silly moments on camera! I thought for sure, I would never be hired again! To my surprise, the producers loved it! I had a great time; I enjoyed it! I could have just been me, all along! What a great day that was.
The best thing about sticking to the simple version of your brand, and allowing yourself to show your humor is, you will have fun! Hellooo? Isn’t that why you want the media attention? You enjoy what you do, so let us see you enjoying! You will be so much more interesting, and you will find that this on camera stuff can be a blast!
The world will be a whole new playground.
Hiring a business coach? STOP!
Published August 7, 2009 | Business coaches are hot right now. They are everywhere. However, I do not recommend business coaches for the sake of having one… but I do recommend working with someone that I think is absolutely outstanding at what they do. To explain: If you are thinking of hiring a coach for your business you are ready to not only invest financially in your business, but you will be heavily investing your energy and emotion as well. The coach you choose should have a proven record, a great mind set, positive attitude, and absolutely kick your butt in the way it needs to be kicked. ( Sorry, but true!)
When I first met Amy Applebaum, I knew two things:
- I need more people in my life like this genuinely caring yet amazingly driven and smart woman.
- I need to find a way to be coached by her!
Truly, I’ve seen what she can do… and now, I am thrilled to share her with my friends and clients. I know my clients are driven, and want the best advice and guidance they can get. Here’s the opportunity to work with Amy for many weeks, and at a cost that is what I have spent on a one-day seminar! It’s her Release Your Inner Millionair-ess program.
She has a free preview call on the 10th of August… click here to sign up and check her out
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What do I have to gain here, you ask? If you’re my client, I want to work with Amy because I it makes me look good when you are successful. So I admit, there IS a big benefit for me! My favorite clients are the ones that stay focused, and know what they can achieve and how. You have everything to gain, and too much to lose if you don’t have a coach, but only get the best!
