I had my favorite acting coach say one day, “fascinated people are fascinating.”
His point being if we were fascinated with our purpose in the scene, we would be extremely engaging to an audience.
When we think about it, isn’t that what you want, too? Engagement with your viewers is key to building rapport, and in good rapport, you are able to move your followers to action.
I have always been fascinated with human and animal behavior, and as my coach said this, I began to think of times in my life that I found this to be true;
You may think of a time, too. Maybe at a networking event, you start a conversation with someone that has a profession, which, quite honestly, you are not particularly interested in. Next thing you know, because of this person’s enthusiasm, you are drawn in, and who know, maybe even find a way to partner in a joint venture with them! It does happen!
I recall a time when a homeless man held my attention as he walked by, thoroughly consumed by a conversation with an imaginary friend as I sat at a Starbucks sipping a latte. He drew the focus of most of us sitting outside on that busy street. His dedication and focus on his (albeit imaginary) conversation made him impossible to ignore! I realized in the moment, it was his fascination that had us fascinated. Odd as it may seem.
Two very different scenarios, for sure, but in each, the speaker’s focus and intensity was magnetizing.
How can you use these silly stories?
Identify what fascinates you and share it. If a delusional man can steal the scene on a busy street with a simple imaginary conversation, think of what you can do when you put your brilliant mind to work!
You may have noticed there is a real movement toward pure authentic presentations, and sharing your passion and purpose unabashedly. Basically I think we are hungry for the realness in each other. We are looking to connect in a culture that is becoming more and more tech-savvy and less and less personal.
That said, it may be challenging for you to find that place of comfort on camera when talking about your true fascination. How much can you share, and how do you include it in your message to be most effective?
Well first, I recommend sharing your purpose and passion with the camera when you have no real agenda. Just share, and record. Play back, and look for where you really light up. Look for the moments that you feel the absolute urge to share.
A few things could still be in your way to feeling comfortable with this concept of delivery, like:
Fear. My suggestion is to work through the camera exercise in my foundational training DVD that encourages you to focus on the person you most need to reach, speaking through the lens. Don’t have the training? It’s free! @ www.charismaoncamera.com.
Burn out. You’ve been at your profession for a while, and are currently not able to tap into the passion that you had in the beginning.
Solution: incorporate words from your passions outside of your business. Love dance? Baseball? Incorporate verbiage from these passions into your message. You can even use metaphors using symbols from your favorite hobbies! Don’t worry about alienating anyone, but think instead, of how pleasant it would be to draw in clients that resonate with your love of the sport, or dance, or outdoors. You will attract your niche the more you can share your true self.
Share your passion. You’ll enjoy sharing your message even more, and we will enjoy watching you! Be fascinated.
To hear more watch the video below and watch to the end for some funny bloopers 😆
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Sandra has been coaching entertainment reporters and television hosts for many years, and she founded Charisma on Camera to expand her clientele to professionals in any field. Her current clients include authors, life coaches, experts in their fields that want to find their star qualities, confidence, and comfort level to establish themselves as an expert guest, successful speaker or host their own show. For more tips and info go to www.charismaoncamera.com
Where to see Sandra:
Charisma on Camera: TV Hosting Workshop