How would it feel to drastically improve your networking results?
Would you like to build your community not simply by increasing your stack of business cards but by people increasing those who actually care enough about you to pick up the phone when you call?
Then I’d like to invite you to accept a playful challenge: interview two or three people a day.
Hang on! Before you say, “that’s crazy,” or “I don’t have time for that” let me clarify what I mean by “interview.”
Learn something about the person. Start with just asking two questions (if you are networking for business, “How are you?” Is not the best choice of questions. Neither is, “What do you do?”).
If you only have two questions, ask the better ones to get a sense of the person.
Better questions might be, ” What’s the best thing that happened to you this week?”
Or, “What are you most passionate about?”
Or, “Who inspires you?”
Hone your interview and listening skills even more by taking this interview exercise into your daily activities (this is why two or three “interviews” a day is not unachievable); if your barista at your coffee shop has outrageous hair colors, or a noticeable tattoo, be curious, “So, why purple?” Or, “What does your tattoo mean to you?”
All of us appreciate being seen, from the destitute to the famous.. In a world of increasing connective technologies, we seem to be decreasing our quality time and conversations with abbreviated posts and texts. It seems we are programmed to worry about giving up too much of our time
The few minutes you may add to your day by asking a few short, but deliberate questions may create surprisingly rich results. I’ve had people say their work experience is completely changed for the better when relationships develop from well-formed questions that show a bit more care and we’ll-intended curiosity.
Everyone has a story… what questions can you ask that might reveal stories in others today? Once you know them better, you can offer your expertise, product or referral in a better way!